Choosing Happiness – Do You Really Have a Choice?

by Lisa Olinda on February 11, 2015

I’m excited to be a Happiness Crusader and join over 100 women in spreading the message of #ChoosingHappiness to women around the world. In today’s post I share how I chose happiness in the midst of life’s messiness. Sunshine on my Soapsuds is a blog about my life, raising 5 children and striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman.

Today best-selling Publisher Linda Joy launches her new book Inspiration for a Woman’s Soul: Choosing Happiness featuring the soul-inspiring stories of 27 amazing women. Choosing Happiness also includes Reflection Questions after each story which will empower you to integrate the vital lessons of each woman’s journey into your own life.

Let’s gaze back through the mirror of time and look at a small snippet of my life where I made a conscious decision to choose happiness.

Choosing HappinessIn 1991 I had been married for 5 years and had a 3-year-old and 1-year-old. I had a wonderful, loving, supportive husband and two beautiful boys. Life was good; but it wasn’t. Everything around me aggravated me and I was discontent. After several weeks of fretting, worrying and being disgruntled I realized I had a choice to make.


I accepted Christ as my personal Savior early in life. At the age of 9 I realized I was a sinner in need of God. I made a decision at that young age that God would be the Lord of my life.

Up to this point in my life I really just went with the flow and didn’t worry about too many things. So I was confused by my discontent and unhappiness. Admittedly, we were going through some struggles at the time. My husband had lost his job and had become the stay at home Dad. I was back to work until he was able to transition into full-time work. Being let go of his job also meant we had a lot of shifts in ministry and life was pretty unsettled.

I remember reading the passage in 2 Corinthians 2:10 “For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” This was certainly not the first time this very had to come to mind but it clicked…I had my “aha moment”. I had a choice. I could be dissatisfied and unhappy or I could, even in my weakness, hardships and calamities, make the choice to be content and happy.

Choosing Happiness

A synonym for happiness is contentment. It took some time but calmness and contentment returned in my life. As a Christian it is important for me to remember that one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit is “self-control”. I do things differently because I have become a changed person in Christ.

Galatians 2:20 “I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” God created me in His image. He is the Lord of my life. Christ lives in me. What a freeing thought.

I do believe that happiness is a choice. I can choose to live in my selfish nature or live content in Christ.

Happiness! Bestselling publisher Linda Joy released Inspiration for a Woman’s Soul: Choosing Happiness featuring the soul-inspiring stories of 27 amazing women who share their intimate stories of transformation. Choosing Happiness also includes Reflection Questions after each story which will empower you to integrate the vital lessons of each woman’s journey into your own life. For a limited time you can get over 40 transformational gifts with your copy of Choosing Happiness. A copy is available today at


When Things Do Not Work Exactly As Planned

by Lisa Olinda on January 21, 2015

Yesterday was one of those days! Breakdowns were abundant and I ended the day frustrated. I just wanted to post a short, wee post yesterday but I couldn’t get anything to work. Finally figured out that a plug-in that I use in all of my other blogs will not work with this blog. In the process of eliminating plug-ins to see which one was the culprit my web host provider locked me out of all of my sites. Sigh … did I mention yesterday was a long, frustrating day. Seemed everything I touched was destined to fail.

What do you do when things do not work exactly as planned?

I am a fixer. I want to make things work but for whatever reason God sometimes says “no”. Yesterday was one of those days. I have to let go of my “wants” and let God have His way. This frustrates me but I have to take comfort in God being in control. I do battle daily with me wanting to be in control.

But praise the Lord today is a new day! Full of hope and God’s grace. I was reading the morning in Psalms were David was so discouraged and overwhelmed and then a new day dawns and the hope begins to work it’s way into his weary soul. Thank you God for making new days full of renewed hope!

How is your day going? I would love to hear from you!


Three Times I Asked Him

October 6, 2014

Three Times I Asked Him is one of my favorite songs. I remember hearing Ann Gibbs singing this song when I was a teenager and listening to her testimony. I sang this song after completing a 9 week course on the book of James Soaring Through Life with Wisdom and Grace. I was thinking of a special lady […]

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In His Hands

September 29, 2014

I was going through my videos to watch and came across this video of our 2011 Easter Cantata In His Hands. Enjoyed seeing James and Brad in action as the keys players. In His Hands In this poignant gospel presentation, In His Hands, the writer skillfully weaves the perspective of two narrators (James Olinda and Brad Joines): one believing […]

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Where are we now?

September 25, 2014

It has been awhile since I have provided an update on where we are now. Our family is literally scattering across the world. John and Paulette John, Paulette and Seth are now in South Korea. John will be teaching for at least 2 years in Seoul Christian School in Kwanak-ku, Seoul. To get updates from […]

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2014 Lighthouse Baptist Church Picnic

September 22, 2014

Fall is my favorite season of the year. Annually our church, Lighthouse Baptist Church, has a church picnic in the fall. This year it was held at Lums Pond in Bear, Delaware. Join us in this 1-minute video as we enjoy some food, fun and fellowship on a gorgeous day in the park.

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Green Smoothie Recipe

August 20, 2014

Lisa’s Green Smoothie I make a green smoothie almost every morning. I alternate the fruit I use. Ingredients 2 sprigs fresh mint 2 sprigs fresh lemon balm 1 tbsp whole flax seed 1 tbsp whole chia seed 1 tbsp raw shredded coconut 1 tsp unrefined coconut oil 1 tsp unsulphured molasses 1 tsp raw buckwheat […]

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A Day to Remember

May 24, 2014

Do you ever have one of those days where you want to slow down time and just savor the moment?  Today was a day to remember! We enjoyed a day at the Philadelphia Zoo today with Jeremy, Peter & Seth. The weather was beautiful and it was certainly a day where memories were made. I […]

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Forest Wandering

May 22, 2014

I love to wander with camera in hand! For the past two weeks I have felt the need to get outdoors and do some exploring. I love photography so this gives me an excuse to get out. Here are a few samples of recent explorations. The lily pads were in full force at the Forest. […]

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Morning in the Snow

December 10, 2013

It is a snowy morning here in Delaware. Peter and I decided to take a walk and I couldn’t resist taking my camera with me. Enjoy! View Full Album

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